How To Be Comfortable With Everyone — by Shinzen Young
Posted: Tue Apr 24, 2018 5:04 pm
"It’s very common for people on a meditative or spiritual path to develop a kind of sensitivity to the poison and pain of others. Sometimes it’s formulated with the phrase “I pick up all this negativity.” Sometimes it’s formulated with the phrase “People drain my energy.” A closely related perception runs something like this: “Now that I've developed some spiritual maturity, I find it difficult to relate to old friends/family/ordinary people; they so cluelessly cause themselves unneeded suffering; I no longer have much in common with them.”
Regarding such sentiments, there are several things to keep in mind. First: They represent a temporary stage that the practitioner eventually grows out of. Second: When you do grow out of it, it’s replaced by its exact opposite: the more clueless and messed up people are, the more you enjoy being around them. You can make the transition from that temporary stage to its opposite by realizing this:"
The 'this' is very enlightened.
How To Be Comfortable With Everyone — by Shinzen Young
https://www.shinzen.org/how-to-be-comfo ... -everyone/A
Regarding such sentiments, there are several things to keep in mind. First: They represent a temporary stage that the practitioner eventually grows out of. Second: When you do grow out of it, it’s replaced by its exact opposite: the more clueless and messed up people are, the more you enjoy being around them. You can make the transition from that temporary stage to its opposite by realizing this:"
The 'this' is very enlightened.
How To Be Comfortable With Everyone — by Shinzen Young
https://www.shinzen.org/how-to-be-comfo ... -everyone/A
... i love the guy but it's this kind of attitude that makes it difficult to be completely comfortable around him. i suppose this applies to other people as well but it seems we take it more personal when we feel closer or have spent more time with someone? dudes like a brother to me so it makes sense *shrug* i notice my mother has challenges with some of her friends too. guess i need to reread this article... 
