Please pray for my Mom

[Sandy]

I would like to ask for prayers for my Mom. She will be ninety in July, and on top of feeling like she is of no use anymore, she finds herself upset with her diminishing physical abilities and is just so sad about life in general. ( Mom has Alzheimer's.) If she could just see herself as the Creator does, and see that she can still make a difference in the lives of those around her by just sharing her love with us.

As well, she fell a couple of weeks ago and, while nothing was broken, is experiencing terrible pain in her neck and right shoulder. The doctor says it is muscle spasms and could persist for a couple of weeks.

After all she is already dealing with, this could feel like a terrible low blow.
I have renewed respect for our elderly earthly brothers and sisters these days. It takes great faith and courage to get old.

Could you all please pray for my Mom? I pray she sees how precious she still is to her family and friends, and more importantly, to the Creator of all. I also pray that her pain diminishes and she can enjoy life in some fashion again. Thankyou everyone. My mom so needs some peace.

Virginia
Age 89
East Tennessee, USA
love,
Sandy

[happyrain]

Sandy,

Done. I am praying.

<3

[Sandy]

Thank you, Eric. ((((Hugs))))

[happyrain]

Sandy, how are things going?

[Amigoo]

Interesting discussion about Alzheimer's patients and stuffed animals ...

(Google Gemini) "Stuffed animals (often called 'comfort companions' in clinical settings) are highly effective therapeutic tools for people with Alzheimer’s. They aren't just 'toys'; they serve as a bridge to emotional safety. For a patient's recent fall, a stuffed animal can provide specific benefits:

1. Tactile 'Gate Control' for Pain

Holding or stroking a soft, plush animal provides a competing sensory input. The brain 'prioritizes' the pleasant, soft sensation of the fur over the sharp sensation of the spasm. Research shows that hugging or petting soft objects can lower cortisol (the stress hormone) and increase oxytocin, which naturally helps the body relax.

2. A Sense of Purpose

Alzheimer's often strips away a person's role as a 'caregiver'.

If a patient is given a stuffed dog or cat, they may instinctively feel the need to 'look after' it. This shifts their focus from their own pain and vulnerability ('I am a patient who fell') to a position of agency ('I need to make sure this pet is comfortable').

3. 'Grounding' During Sundowning

If they become more agitated in the evening (Sundowning), having a familiar, soft object to hold can act as an emotional anchor. It gives them restless hands something to do, which prevents them from picking at their clothes, bandages, or painful areas on their body.

4. Tips for Introducing One

Older patients might feel insulted if they think they are being treated like a child. Don't 'give' it like a toy: Instead, try placing it on a nearby chair or on the bed and say, 'I found this cutie and will introduce it to a new owner. Would you like hold it for a while?'

Usually, realistic-looking cats or dogs are better for Alzheimer’s patients as they tap into long-term memories of past pets.

While most find them soothing, a small percentage of patients may find a stuffed animal confusing or even stressful if they think it’s a real animal they forgot to feed. Watch their reaction - if they look worried or overwhelmed by it, simply remove it without making a fuss.

Bringing a stuffed animal 'for a visit' is the gold standard for introducing comfort objects while preserving a senior's dignity. By framing it this way, you remove the 'childlike' stigma and give them a choice. Here is why that approach works so well and how to execute it:

1. Protects Their Dignity

If you say, 'Here is a toy for you', they might feel patronized. But If you say, 'I brought this little guy along today; he’s so soft, would you like to hold him while we chat?' you are treating them like an equal who is doing you or the animal a favor.

2. Acts as a 'Social Bridge'

Sometimes, when a patient is in pain from something like a muscle spasm, they find it hard to focus on a conversation. The animal becomes the third party in the room. Instead of the pressure being on her to 'perform' or answer questions, the focus shifts to the animal. 'He looks pretty cozy, doesn't he?'

3. Observe the 'Nurture Response'

During the 'visit', watch their hands and eyes. These are the tell-tale signs of acceptance:

Success: They start stroking the fur, pulls it closer to their chest, or starts talking to it. If they tuck it under their arm, they might start using it to stabilize their painful shoulder, for example.

Neutral: They set it on the table. (Means it’s not helpful right now, but maybe another day).

Rejection: They seem confused, push it away, or gets distressed thinking it's a real animal that needs a litter box or food.

4. The 'Trial Run' Strategy

If the 'visit' goes well, you can leave it behind with a clever excuse:

'I have a few more errands to run and I don't want him to get squished in the car. Would you mind looking after him until I get back?' Or 'I'm trying to see which stuffed animal is comforting to adults. Would you like to 'train it' for me to give to someone who would like it?'

For an Alzheimer’s patient, being 'needed' is one of the most calming feelings in the world. It replaces the anxiety of being a 'patient' with the quiet pride of being a 'helper'. Helping evaluate use of stuffed animals for adults is important research! And a cognitive Alzheimer's patient would comprehend that 'training' the pet is just lighthearted reference to their evaluation of it."


** Entrepreneur Alert: A real business could sell these lovingly "trained" stuffed animals,
along with the pictorial story of their training. If trained animal cannot be sold, same
new model might be (and gift trained animal to someone or keep it).

Comment from friend in Norway ...
"They use stuffed animals here (soft stuffed seals that make happy noises when stroked)."

See also: https://board.1111angels.com/viewtopic. ... 59#p226359
(includes discussion about robot training as new career)

Rod