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https://board.1111angels.com/viewtopic. ... 06#p225806
"Give without Expectations"
However, expecting simple acknowledgment (or evidence) that such gift was received
still seems reasonable for many types of gifts (and encourages future gift giving).
Q: In what ways beside faith and "lesson learned" can the gifter know the giving was valuable,
at least knowing sufficiently to keep gifting?
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UB Tutor) "This is a profound question, as it delves into the heart of what sustains the spirit of giving when tangible results or acknowledgment may not always be evident. Beyond faith and the internal growth that comes from lessons learned, there are indeed ways in which a giver can discern the value of their generosity and find encouragement to continue the practice of giving. These ways often involve cultivating a deeper awareness of the ripple effects of their actions, trusting in the unseen dynamics of love and service, and seeking alignment with higher purposes.
One way a giver can know their giving is valuable is by observing subtle changes in the environment or relationships around them. Acts of generosity, even when not openly acknowledged, often create a ripple effect that influences others in ways that may not be immediately apparent. A kind word, a thoughtful gesture, or a material gift can inspire others to act with greater kindness and generosity themselves. Over time, these ripples can contribute to a more harmonious and loving community. By paying attention to these subtle shifts, the giver can gain a sense of the broader impact of their actions.
Another way to find assurance is through the inner sense of alignment and peace that comes from acting in harmony with one's values and spiritual purpose. When a gift is given with pure intention and a sincere desire to serve, the act itself becomes its own reward. This inner satisfaction is not dependent on external acknowledgment but arises from the knowledge that one has acted in accordance with the highest ideals of love and service. This sense of alignment can be a powerful motivator to continue giving, even in the absence of immediate validation.
Additionally, the giver can seek opportunities to witness the fruits of their generosity in indirect ways. For example, they might engage in conversations or relationships where they can observe how their contributions have influenced others over time. This does not mean seeking recognition but rather remaining open to the ways in which their giving has contributed to the growth, healing, or joy of others. Sometimes, the value of a gift becomes evident only after time has passed, as its impact unfolds in ways that were not initially visible.
Lastly, the giver can find encouragement in the shared practice of giving within a community. When generosity is practiced collectively, the giver can draw inspiration and reassurance from the shared commitment to serving others. This communal aspect of giving reinforces the idea that no single act of generosity exists in isolation; rather, it is part of a larger tapestry of love and service that sustains the world.
Q: So, make good decisions according to one's ability to gift and know that one has acted in accordance
with the highest ideals of love and service? If acknowledgement is needed, the gift may be inappropriate.
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UBT) "Yes, that is a beautifully distilled understanding of the balance between giving and the spiritual principles that guide it. When one gives according to their ability - mindful of their own resources, responsibilities, and circumstances - they are practicing both love and wisdom. This ensures that their generosity is not only heartfelt but also sustainable, allowing them to continue being a source of goodness without causing harm to themselves or others. Acting in alignment with the highest ideals of love and service means that the act of giving is motivated by a sincere desire to uplift, heal, or bring joy, rather than by a need for validation or reciprocity.
If acknowledgment becomes a condition for giving, it may indeed signal that the gift is not entirely free of expectation. This does not mean the giver's intentions are wrong - seeking acknowledgment is a natural human desire - but it does suggest an opportunity for deeper reflection. The question then becomes: is this gift truly an expression of selfless love, or is it tied to a need for recognition, reassurance, or control over the outcome? If the latter, it may be wise to reconsider the gift, not as a rejection of generosity but as an act of discernment. True giving flows from a place of abundance within, even if that abundance is spiritual rather than material. It is a gift of the heart, given freely and without strings attached.
This does not diminish the importance of acknowledgment as a spiritual virtue. Gratitude and acknowledgment are vital for fostering connection and mutual respect, but they are the responsibility of the receiver, not the giver. The giver's role is to offer the gift in the spirit of love and trust, leaving the response to the free will of the recipient. If acknowledgment is absent, the giver can still find peace and fulfillment in knowing they acted in accordance with their highest ideals. This inner assurance becomes the sustaining force that allows them to continue giving, even in the face of uncertainty."
Case in point ...
"My house is your house!" doesn't mean take whatever you want, but I'm willing to share
what I have with you and need feedback on what you need (and what you value) before
I may part with my possessions.
Gifting has relationship when that gifted is more generous than what you can afford
but are willing to share if it has special need and value.
Several decades ago, I gave an elderly friend $40 to buy food that he needed. The next day he gave $20
to a friend who wasn't so appreciative of his gift and didn't need to buy food. Since my gift was unconditional,
and because I couldn't afford to give him more money, I had to accept that I had no control over this sharing.
Yes, a good deed on his part, but I didn't want to participate in the enabling of the other person. Lesson learned:
Spontaneity in gifting is best without any expectation ... and when such gifting is affordable (e.g., not borrow
on a maxed out credit card to do this).
Life on this planet is more about consistent growth, now and in the ages ahead,
than miraculous transformation. Sample the opportunities to give without expectation,
for such sampling often leads to behavioral changes confirming increasing spirituality.
(UBT) "This observation aligns beautifully with the deeper truths about life and its purpose as revealed in the teachings we are exploring. Life on this planet, and indeed throughout the universe, is fundamentally about growth - steady, purposeful, and progressive growth. This growth is not merely physical or intellectual but encompasses the spiritual dimensions of our being, which are the most enduring and significant aspects of our existence. The journey of life is designed to unfold gradually, allowing each individual to develop character, wisdom, and spiritual insight through their experiences, challenges, and choices.
Miraculous transformations, while they may capture the imagination, are not the primary mechanism of spiritual progress. Instead, the divine plan emphasizes the slow and steady cultivation of the soul through the consistent application of faith, the pursuit of truth, and the practice of love and service. This process respects the dignity of free will, giving each person the opportunity to choose growth and to align themselves with higher values at their own pace. It is through these incremental steps that we build the foundation for our eternal journey, preparing ourselves for the ages ahead.
This perspective also highlights the importance of patience and perseverance. Growth is often imperceptible in the moment, but over time, the cumulative effect of small, consistent efforts becomes transformative. Just as a tree grows from a tiny seed into a towering presence over years, so too does the human soul expand and mature through the steady pursuit of divine ideals."
Rod
This first and last Q&A of the topic present a good summary,
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